Date and Acquaintance Rape

Date and Acquaintance Rape

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An acquaintance rapist often 1.) Shows signs of deep-seated anger towards women 2.) Views women as sex objects 3.) Thinks women ought to serve men's needs 4.) Makes all decisions in a relationship 5.) Idolizes women and then gets angry when they disappointed him 6.) Is not concerned about the feelings of others 7.) Accepts interpersonal violence 8.) Is mildly sociopaths 9.) Doesn't listen....he may hear you protest, but chooses to ignore it 10.) Believes consent is not important in physical intimacy 11.) Gets angry when you state limits 12.) Does not like to be intellectually challenged by, confronted by or disagreed with by women Acquaintance rape is not about love or lust. It isn't about something that "just happens" in the heat of the moment. ACQUAINTANCE RAPE IS SEXUAL VIOLENCE. There are many factors that can contribute to it for example: 1.) Sex role stereotyping Many people believe that men should be aggressive and women should be passive 2.) Mixed messages A man may think that a woman really does want to have sex with him if she actively flirts with him while saying "NO" In our society both males and females have been taught many half truths about each other. Males are taught to "score" with women :they believe a woman may say "no" but really mean "yes" and just needs a little persuasion. On the other hand females believe that flirting is an innocent and harmless game that everyone plays. Yet women are taught that they are responsible if "things get out of hand." The result of this social conditioning is a rape that both the victim and assailants may rationalize as being something less than a violent assault. 3.) Learned violence 4.) Shifting blame Rapists sometimes target aquaintances based on their belief that this relationship will decrease the chances of the victim reporting as well as dilute her credibility if she does report. Aquaintance or date rapes are very confusing to the victim, especially when she tries to identify why it happened. Many times she is told by the rapsit that she led him to do it, she asked for it, or he apologizes for the attack and she tries to find a logical reason for it. MEN DO NOT EVER HAVE A RIGHT TO HAVE SEX WITH A WOMAN EVEN IF: 1.) They have had sex before 2.) She agreed to have sex with him and then changes her mind 3.) He met her at a bar 4.) He picked her up hitch-hiking 5.) He paid for her dinner 6.) She invited him to her home late at night I

Signs of an Acquaintance Rapist

Signs of an Acquaintance Rapist

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• Acts overly macho.
  
• Believes that all males and females fit traditional stereotypes.
  
• Doesn't take "No" for an answer.
  
• Ignores personal boundaries.
  
• Uses force to solve problems.
  
• Acts excessively jealous and/or possessive. Be especially suspicious of this behavior if you've only recently met him or are on a first or second date.
  
• Is obsessed with guns, knives and other lethal instruments.
  
• Acts immaturely; shows little empathy or feeling for others.
  
• Tries to separate you from your friends and family by convincing you to spend more time with him and less with them.
  
• Insists on being alone with you on a first date.
  
• Has a short temper.
  
• Demands your attention or compliance at inappropriate times, such as during class, or interrupting your conversations with someone else.
  
• Asks personal questions and wants to know more about you than you want to tell him.
  
• Expects relationships and/or sexual activity to be on his/her terms.
  
• Views women and children as "property."
  
• Views women as "objects."
• Views sex as a "conquest."

Lancet study: Teens, young adults have high risk of death from injury, violence, suicide - latimes.com

Lancet study: Teens, young adults have high risk of death from injury, violence, suicide - latimes.com

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As the world has urbanized, public health needs have changed. For most of the 20th century, epidemiologists worried about communicable diseases killing very young children. Now, a new paper in the journal the Lancet suggests, the bigger concern in many countries is mortality among young adults ages 15 to 24 -- especially young men. Modernization and urbanization may have pushed back disease. But they have made accidents, suicide and violence more common causes of death during the second decade of life.

To investigate the mortality trends, researchers led by Dr. Russell Viner of the University College London Institute of Child Health looked at the World Health Organization's mortality database from 1955 to 2004, breaking out data by age group and sex in 50 countries with good mortality data. These included nations with low-, middle- and high-income levels.

Over the study period, mortality from all causes was reduced by as much as 93% in children 1 to 4 years old, the study reported. But young men ages 15 to 24 experienced a decline in mortality of just 41% to 48%. In the period 2000-2004, mortality among young men was two to three times higher than that among young boys, the researchers said. By the late 1970s, injury was the dominant cause of death in young men. Violence and suicide accounted for one-quarter to one-third of mortality in young men between 2000 and 2004.

How to Lift a BAD MOOD?

7 Pointers to Lift a Bad Mood
By Dr. Maoshing Ni

No one can live a long and healthy life without the will to go on; sometimes mood swings can make us feel that life is too much for us.

A bad mood not only gives you a gloomy outlook, it also lowers your immune function, leading the way to illness. Here are some suggestions to lift your mood, your spirit, and your health.

1. A Laughing Matter
"Laugh Therapy," pioneered by Norman Cousins, has turned out to have real substance. Research has discovered that laughter and joy boost immune functions, especially the production of the natural killer cells that help defend the body from illness and cancer.

Laughter also increases the release of endorphins - compounds that give you a sense of well-being - in your brain. Without a doubt, joyful people liver longer and healthier lives. So read your favorite comics, watch your favorite comedies, and laugh it up!

2. Amino Acid for Restored Mindset
When an imbalance or deficiency is creating a bad mood, the Europeans use supplements of a natural compound found in human cells to regulate mood and restore a healthy mindset. SAMe (S-adenosyl-L-methionine) is produced from methionine, an amino acid that plays a role in the production of uplifting neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine.

One study indicated that SAMe worked on patients who had unsuccessful results with conventional antidepressants. To get a boost from SAMe, take a supplement combining it with vitamins B6 and B12.

3. Hands-On Healing
Human touch increases the production of endorphins, growth hormone, and DHEA, all of which lengthen your life span and lower the negative impact of stress. Studies have found that patients who are regularly touched recover faster than those who are not touched. So give someone a hug and feel both of your moods improve.

4. Boost Your "Youth Hormones"
You don't need pills to flood your body with a rejuvenating flood of growth hormones. Research has found that doing squats and leg presses will greatly increase your natural production of the "youth hormone". Increased growth hormone translates to an elevated mood, among other physical benefits. Keep it up with weight training, knee bends, push-ups, and rowing.

5. Take a Bracing Breath
Breathing correctly is important for dispelling the toxins and wastes from your body; in fact, it is estimated that we expel only about 30 percent of toxins in our bodies through the bowels and bladder-the rest is all respiratory. Breathing is also a great way to clear your mind, boost your energy, and improve your mood. Practice deep, slow, rhythmic, breathing daily with mind-body disciplines such as tai chi, yoga, qigong, and meditation.

6. Smell the Joy
Research has shown that smell has a definite impact on our bodies and minds. When you stimulate the olfactory nerves inside your nose, you activate the limbic system of your brain, which is associated with moods and memory. This concept is instrumental to aromatherapy, a natural health tradition that makes use of the healing powers of plants with strong scents.

Aromatherapy recommends treating depression with jasmine, eucalyptus for exhilaration, and grapefruit to increase alertness and joy. Just put a dab of the essential oils from these plants on your temples, back of your neck, or acupressure points. Another option? Boil the herb in water and inhale the steam through your nose.

7. Feel Fine with Flowers
There is a reason that flowers are the traditional get-well gesture. Colorful flowers have a powerful influence on moods; they can uplift a patient's mood and even combat stress. One study found that during a five-minute typing assignment, people sitting next to a flowering bouquet were more relaxed than those who sat near foliage-only plants.

I hope these tips help the good feelings flow! I invite you to visit often and share your own personal health and longevity tips with me.

May you live long, live strong, and live happy!

-Dr. Mao

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