Recognize the emotion
Increase intimacy with emotion
Listen for and validate emotion
Label emotion
Set limits with emotion
The outcome of children who had experienced this type of "emotional coaching" from their parents were on an entirely different development trajectory than the children of other parents.
The emotion-coaching parents had children who later became what Daniel Goldman calls "emotionally intelligent" people. Emotionally-coached children are able to regulate their own emotional states and are better at soothing themselves and calming a racing heart when upset."
*Because of the superior performance in calming their physiology, children who received emotional coaching from their parents also reported fewer infectious illnesses. They were better at focusing attention. They related better to other people, even in the tough social situations like teasing. They were better at understanding people. They had better friendships with other children. They also performed better academically.
Because of the superior performance in calming their physiology, children who received emotional coaching from their parents also reported fewer infectious illnesses. They were better at focusing attention. They related better to other people, even in the tough social situations like teasing. They were better at understanding people. They had better friendships with other children. They also performed better academically.
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